Friday, June 17, 2011


Jordan had to write something to her next year's teacher that would describe her. This is what she wrote.

Who is energetic, very athletic, caring and funny.
Who is sister to Kyle, my brother.
Who loves cheese and the color green.
Who feels happy all of the time.
Who needs my best friend.
Who gives respect to other people.
Who fears what other people think about me.
Who would like to see New Zealand.
Who shares laughs with people.
Who is a hard working athlete.

Oh baby girl. I love you so much.

...Who fears what other people think about me. That line hit me hard. Gonna work on that one.

The focus of my senior thesis is on sexual objectification and the impact it has on us, especially girls. Media, advertising, barbies, bratz dolls, beauty magazines etc....are all evil vehicles for our society's impossible ideal. Girls are being pushed to reach perfection instead of encouraged to accept themselves as perfect just the way they are. I am on a mission to save our girls. For my girl. Which is why this song makes me cry every. single. time. 


Made a wrong turn
once or twice.
Dug my way out,
blood and fire.
Bad decisions,
that's alright.
Welcome to my silly life.
Mistreated, misplaced, misunderstood!
Miss "No wait, It's all good", it didn't slow me down
Mistaken, always second guessing, underestimated
Look, I'm still around...

Pretty pretty please
Don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than,
Less then Perfect
Pretty pretty please
If you ever ever feel like you're nothing
You are Perfect to me!

You're so mean
When you talk about yourself, you were wrong
Change the voices in your head
Make them like you instead
So complicated, look how how we all make it
Filled with so much hatred...such a tired game
It's enough! I've done all I can think of
Chased down all my demons, let's see you do the same.

Oh, pretty pretty please
Don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than
Less then Perfect
Pretty pretty please
If you ever ever feel like you're nothing
You are Perfect to me

The whole world's scared so I swallow the fear
The only thing I should be drinking is an ice cold beer
So cool in line, and we try try try,
But we try too hard and it's a waste of my time
Done looking for the critics, cause they're everywhere
They don't like my jeans, they don't get my hair
Exchange ourselves, and we do it all the time
Why do we do that? Why do I do that?

Why do I do that?

Yeah, oh, oh baby, pretty please
Pretty pretty please,
Don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than
Less then perfect
Pretty pretty please
If you ever ever feel
Like you're nothing, you are Perfect to me Yeaaahhh...
You are Perfect, you're Perfect!
Pretty pretty please, if you ever ever feel like you're nothing
You are Perfect to me.

You, Jordan Alexis, are perfect just the way you are. You make the world a better place simply by being you. So "pretty pretty please" don't ever change because you fear what other people think of you. You're Perfect.


  1. Great post Jen. Funny you mention that song cuz I let my girls listen to it (even the uncensored version) as I think it is so empowering. A few F words are worth the power and strength of listening to that song.
    I will be a warrior with you to have our girls have complete confidence and acceptance and love who they are, that is one of the most rewarding feelings, for them and for us.
    Sorry long winded comment, but having three girls its a topic I think about often! Glad to hear they are in the same class next year!

  2. Proud of you Jen. With a Mom who has her back and is in her corner as you have been and always will be, Jordan will feel empowered and will definitely be strong enough to overcome
    any obstacles as she grows up. And with her wit,her personality and her love of life and nature she will teach all of us to love ourselves more and to be the best we can be. She is our flower child with the soul and wit of one of the most amazing people I know. So, no worries...Jordan can teach us all to love life more and and take in the beauty of all nature around us. She warms the heart.Because of her great role model she will exceed all dreams. I am so proud of the fact that you always put more than 100% into each hat your wear. (Often without a filter when you believe others are being wronged! :))
    On a serious note though... As a wife, you adore, respect and love your husband. The two of you are best friends. As a Mom you are truly amazing. It is so easy to see that Kyle and Jordan are your life and you love and cherish them with your whole being and will do whatever it takes to protect them. As a daughter...well say no more...I adore you and you know that. I am so proud of the path you are on to BETTER the lives of others. We are ready for THE CHANGE!!! Thank you Jennifer.
    Hugs to all.

    Holly: Your little girls are very lucky to have such a wonderful Mom and warrior in their court with their best interest as your goal too. Hope you have a wonderful summer. Take care. :)